" To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved."
Flashback to February 17, 2014
Here I go once again with the million dollar topic: LOVE =) ♥ ♥ ♥. So Valentine's day just passed, the love day is gone, no more kisses and hugs in the air. Lol. No I'm kidding, love is something that should always be shared, regardless of the day. Well anyway I had a pretty interesting Valentine day weekend. February 14, 2014 (Friday) was my last day working at It's Just Lunch, funny thing, I stop working there on the actual lovey-dovey day, poor clients of mine, but I must admit, I was overly excited and in such a great mood. I am going to miss them, but I definitely had enough with being a dating director. Also, weather I have a honey or not, I always have something to celebrate during this special occasion because it is my guy best friend Jason's birthday. So we of course went out to celebrate and had a wonderful time.
Alright back to the point. So this weekend I was thinking about Valentine's day, love, couples, families and a thought came to my head. There is a quote that reads:
To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.- George MacDonald.
Ever since the day I first read the quote, I loved it and absolutely agreed with it. Of course I want everybody to be loved, however that does not always mean everything. I would say that if you trust a person, there has to be some level of love there, however, you cannot always trust a person that you love. Which brings me now to this thought. Relationship wise- should someone feel more special if they are told "I really like you and you mean a lot to me" or if their significant others tells them "I love you". Gosh, if you think about it, it is a bigger statement and a more genuine feeling when you like someone than when you love them. I know it sounds crazy, but think about it. When you like someone, you are willing to go completely out of the way, cross a river, fight a storm, or even willingly make time without being asked just to please them or to show them how interested you really are. There is not really much benefit there, especially if they aren't mutual feelings. Things change though when it is already established that you love someone, it doesn't even matter if it's a partner or a family member. When a person loves someone, yes they love them but most times they find themselves having to do things out of obligation. It's psychological. How can you not do that person the favor, or try to really help them, or support them if it is someone you love? And the worst part is that some people take advantage of this. A lot of times, not all the time, but a lot of times people do stuff, try to show support or make time for people they say they love because they feel obliged to, but if they could be doing something else they would. But this is terrible! The fact that you love someone should not have to make you feel pressured to do something you don't want to do genuinely, whether it be because they just don't deserve the effort, they make themselves seem like victims which you have to do something nice for, or you just plainly don't want to do.
I guess it is hard to explain, but the fact that someone loves you, or you love someone isn't always a great thing when you look at it that way. I would much rather have someone really like me as a person or girlfriend or wife or whatever, than to have someone love me, yet feel forced to do things because if they don't then they would think that I would think they don't love me, or I'll get mad at them.
What do you guys think??
- Alexa (Intellect Chick)
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